Abundance Over Scarcity

We trade the myth of “friendly competition” for a frank talk about credit, scarcity, and how to handle gossip without feeding the fire. We share real stories from our businesses and why we choose silence, boundaries, and abundance when shade shows up.

• collaboration as an abundant mindset
• giving public credit for ideas and influence
• spotting performative “heads-ups” and masked shade
• when to be silent and when to correct the record
• curating circles and cutting off persistent negativity
• healthy competition versus copying and mimicry
• protecting family names, teams and brands
• practical scripts for de-escalation and advocacy

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Transcript

Adrianne 0:00

I don't know. Do we want holier hood? I'm going for hood today. I'm going for hood.

Welcome And Salty Set-Up

Voice Over 0:04

Welcome to the Group Chat Goes Live, slightly salty edition, where your three favorite troublemakers turn the chaos of the group text into a full-blown weekly show. We're talking real life, real opinions, and just enough sass to keep things interesting. No filters, no perfection. Just three women with big personalities, bold stories, and a habit of saying the quiet parts out loud. So grab your drink, brace yourself, and join us because the group chat didn't just spill the tea, it went live.

Leanna 0:36

The whole idea diet. And I'm like, but I have so much to say on the topic.

Adrianne 0:43

All right.

Framing Collaboration Vs Competition

Adrianne 0:44

Our topic today is collaboration versus competition. I feel like a lot with social media, there's such a mix that sometimes there are so many people that I do collaborate with in my industry. And then other times I feel like some people take things I've said or things I'm doing, and then almost like we've become competitive when we're not competitive. Yeah. Because we have such different industries or clientele. And so I feel like it's interesting because I'm seeing it in a lot of different industries too. And I know the saying is always like, oh, take it as a compliment when someone uses your idea.

Leanna 1:26

No, thank you.

Adrianne 1:27

Right.

Kerri Ann 1:27

But I feel like it can also be with people that aren't, because I know like when I wasn't working, but I was just a mom, there was a whole bunch of that going on.

Leanna 1:37

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 1:37

A whole bunch with the mommy groups. And then you get into the what are the what is that when you're on the sports and it's a sponsor. What is that? Compet I the no, the boosters. Oh holy moly.

Copying Ideas And Giving Credit

Adrianne 1:52

Yeah. But I feel like in business now it's so easy for someone to just take your idea and then run with it, like they just invented it. And like I don't mind when people like I get it can be a compliment when someone copies something you're doing, but I feel like when it's presented almost like they came up with the idea or agree. Then I feel like, okay, that's different. Because if I use someone's idea on something, I affink them or I call them out, like, hey, yes, I appreciate you did this for me or gave me this idea idea or that you met with me. I feel like that's different because you're respecting the knowledge of that person and the time they spent with you. Or you spent with them. Yeah. But it's when you see it posted out, like they came up with the idea and have been doing it for years. I feel like that's a slap in the face and not a compliment to me. Agree.

Leanna 2:42

Yeah. No, I think also collaboration is an abundant mindset, right?

Abundance Mindset In Action

Leanna 2:49

In fact, we talked on our podcast when we did the live interviews with Mindy. Mindy Jones does an amazing job of collaboration. There's enough for everybody. Yes. Right. And we're all in very, very competitive industries.

Kerri Ann 3:03

She's always lived in abundance rather than scarcity. Yes, every time. Yeah. Yes.

Leanna 3:08

Sorry. It just feels like when you see people living it out, she doesn't have to say that she's collaborative. No. Just everything about her is right. And I think there's an abundance mindset. Then you have other people that are like, oh yeah, I collaborate all the time. There's more than enough. And then they have that angle of competition where you see people where they'll cut people down or they'll talk bad or they'll take an idea as their own. And it's just really unattractive, right? And I think that that's a scarcity mindset. I have to make you look worse than me. Right. So that you'll but I think more and more people are seeing through that. Right.

Kerri Ann 3:48

Oh, I agree. I do think that, and we've said this when people show you who they are, believe them. Yes. And I think when I've worked with so many people that I'm the first one to appreciate what they've done or appreciate something that I heard them say or do or accomplish, that I'm like, I think that's phenomenal. I love that. I want to take a piece of that with me. Yeah. But always honoring them. Yeah. And and I just think that I've grown so much from that. But I always try to do that. And then if I pull their ideas or things that they've done or what they've said into my world, then they know that, you know, that touched me or that impacted me. And now I would love to make that a part of me.

Adrianne 4:42

Yeah. And that always throws me off when people are negative or try to

Women’s Groups And Real Estate Circles

Adrianne 4:46

throw someone else shade. Because I feel like, like in my industry, you know, we're there's 60,000 agents in the Valley. And I'm part of two different groups of real estate agents, all women. We're all mainly East Valley. We pow-wow together. We text each other every day, like, hey, do you know this? Or how would you handle this? Or, you know, this client's asking for this. And we're giving feedback and helping each other. And I I could never imagine throwing shade on one of them. Like we all we live in an industry that can get crazy and we support each other. And there's been times where, you know, there's certain types of deals I don't do. And I'm like, hey, I'm not the person, but I've got this amazing person that that's their specialty. And I give the business off. And I guess that's the same. Like, I don't ever want to live in a scarcity where I would be like, whoa, I wouldn't be using that person. I'll take that deal, you know? Yeah. Because I feel like that's one, that's not who I am, but it's weird to me when I see it, especially if it's in groups of people I know, and then someone's throwing shade on somebody. And I think, wow, you wouldn't have even known that because I'm pretty sure I was at a meeting or at this and you heard about this or someone was lifting you up, and now your scarcity mindset is now you're trying to throw shade on those people who helped lift you up. Yeah. And I just feel like I'm seeing it more and more lately online. And it, I don't know, it bothered, it irritates me that people are living in such a lot of people.

Kerri Ann 6:08

I will say I've had people that have rubbed me the wrong way sometimes. And if anybody has ever asked me or been like, hey, do you know so-and-so? Or, you know, there's or I've had people that have wanted

Handling Gossip And “Friendly” Shade

Kerri Ann 6:28

to collaborate with me and other people that maybe I choose not to collaborate with.

Voice Over 6:35

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 6:36

I've only just said, listen, my experience of that person is my experience. And, you know, and just leave it at that.

Voice Over 6:46

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 6:46

You know, not everybody likes everybody and not everybody jives with everybody. And not every, you know, so you don't have to go down the rabbit hole of all the reasons that are personal to you of that. You know, but I I and not everybody is for me. I'm not for everybody, the same as we've all talked about. So I just don't understand when people are hateful like that.

Leanna 7:10

No.

Kerri Ann 7:10

I just I don't get it. I don't get it.

Leanna 7:13

I think honestly, there's so much kind of uh competition out there that the more you can lift yourself up with others, then you guys all rise, you all get to that next level. Right. But the second that someone takes I don't know, I've just seen it a lot lately where it's, you know, I'm I'm gonna c I'm gonna come and let you know as a friend, this is what's going on. Yeah. Right. When they mask kind of throwing people under the bus or they mask it as, let me just give you a heads up, that's really just destructive to them as well as it shows who their character is. And I'm I say it all the time, at least once a week, when people show you who they are, you have to believe them. But then how do you handle it in that moment when you get a phone call that says, Oh, I heard such and such about you, or so-and-so said, came to me as a friend and brought this to my attention? Now how do you? It's really hard sometimes to handle it with grace because something just gets thrown at you that you're not prepared for, right? Right. And how do you not how do you acknowledge it without getting pulled into the drama of it as well? You know what I'm saying? Well, that's not the case. Let me tell you my side. There's no point in that, right? Now you're just No, it's just feeding the fire. But you also don't want your name or your brand or your company or whatever to have misinformation out there. How do you navigate those moments?

The Power Of Saying Nothing

Kerri Ann 8:46

And we've talked about this a lot, the three of us. And it's just because we are so social media forward with our businesses and our own lives that it really exposes us a lot out there. And we've talked about the fact that sometimes just saying nothing is really powerful. Yeah. And also, you know, people can't get away from themselves. If somebody is not a good human and is tearing you down to make them better, they're only gonna reap what they deserve at some point in time. We all catch up with ourselves. Yeah. So putting all that energy into that's not the truth. Let me tell you, this is how like putting all that energy is just keeping that ugliness alive. Yeah. Instead of just being like, okay, thanks. You know, I appreciate you telling me that. That's unfortunate, and just letting it be at that because it's going to come to the surface at some point. But I mean, that the realistic part of that is that if somebody and people have come to all of us, we've had this experience where people are being like, hey, I just really love you and I want you to know this. Okay. To that person, we don't add fire. But you have to put it somewhere, and that's where trusted groups of friends, where you can just be like, I can't believe this was just said. Sometimes you just need to talk it and hear you know that's not the truth, and blah, you know, just get it out with your friends and then just let it be.

Boundaries, Advocacy, And Cutoffs

Adrianne 10:19

Yeah, and I think too, on not feeling it, you know, I've had situations, you know, obviously when I ran a team and stuff, yeah, and people don't always stay with you. And there can be negative because people like to justify what they're doing and making sure that they're seen in a brighter light, in a bright light. And I always just learn that I've kind of like what Karianna said, I always pick that it just wasn't the right fit. I w wish them the best and hope that they find what it is they're looking for. Um and I try to do it that way. And if if a friend is coming to me, and I'm gonna say a friend, because if you're calling me to say, hey, I heard this, yeah, whether that friend is someone who likes to stir dirt or or stir the pot, I don't know which one it is. Is it stir dirt? Stir the pot. Then I feel like my first response is, well, I hope you set them straight. Because I would assume if you're my friend and you're telling me this, then you stood up for me because you know my integrity and and the way I am personally, yeah. And that you would have been my advocate. And then the other is that that's quickly how I know who is out of my life. Um and it sounds, and not to sound rude, but if someone is negative or throwing negativity that's not even needed or warranted just because they need to justify their own behavior, I mean, I've had this done personally not too long ago, then that's a media cutoff.

Voice Over 11:44

Yeah.

Adrianne 11:44

Like I don't need that in my life, and I'm not gonna allow your insecurity and negativity to impact me, my family, or my business. Like you figure that out on your own.

Kerri Ann 11:56

Yeah. Well, and like you said, I mean, I I thrive off of collaboration.

Healthy Competition And Authenticity

Kerri Ann 12:03

Yeah. I mean, just what we talked about in the last podcast about, you know, getting together and holding each other accountable. Like collaborating just makes everyone better. Yes. Which for a lot of like in our industry, in the senior industry, there's so much shenanigans and there's so many bad actors that I want to lean in and collaborate with other people that do what we do in the senior space, because then we are going to be kind of the ones to look to where other people can say, Well, why don't you do it like they do it? Yeah. So the more of us across the board, that it isn't just, you know, my me and my team, that it's other people that are doing that. So collaboration is fantastic, you know, in a lot of ways. But competition is just a part of any any industry whatsoever.

Leanna 12:55

I think healthy competition exists, and I don't ever see a problem with that, right? I want to. I love that. Yes. Excuse me, competing with myself or competing with the best, right? It is a competition. But when you stop trying to be yourself and you trying to be someone else, yes, like I've seen it, you know, I've had people say, I want to be just like Carrie Ann, I want to be just like Adrienne, right? No, you want to be just you want to be you, right? Like no one's gonna do us better than ourselves. So what if you actually just show up as yourself in authenticity, how many more people could benefit from that, right? Because then you just look like a copy or a fake. And people are will also point that out, right? I think my thing is that people know not to come to me about either one of you guys, right? But on that same token, when people call me and say, Oh, this is what I heard, my first question in my head is why were they so comfortable coming to you with information about me? Yeah, right. They must not think that the relationship is that strong, or they must not think that they are going to protect my name or my

Staying Out Of High School Drama

Leanna 14:06

integrity, like you were saying, right? I think most people know not to come to any of us about each other.

Adrianne 14:12

I honestly love when people come to me about any of you because I will set everyone straight.

Leanna 14:16

I love that.

Adrianne 14:17

I mean, I have no issue and I feel like it and I would do that, you know, I do it with my closest friends because I feel like it's easy for people to get into gossip. And I I maybe it's the older I get, I I don't like gossip. And I feel like I love competition because I want to be the best at whatever goal I've set. Right. But I also think I never want to be in competition where someone, where I got to a point where I had to say something negative about someone in my industry or I presented myself catty, snarky. Yeah. I like like I have a brand and an image that is not fake, and I'm not gonna show that I went to church and then the next day I'm like, did you see such and such? I heard on her business. Yeah. I mean, that's not and it and when people do that to me, I immediately have a negative of their business. And then I'm afraid to refer people because I'm like, wow, are you gonna say that about my client? Are you gonna say that about who I refer to you? Yeah, who else are you telling that to?

Kerri Ann 15:17

Well, people don't realize that the majority of what they think somebody's not gonna find out, they find out. Yeah. And and then what do you think of them? Yeah. You know, like if you are in a space where you, you know, have a somebody else that does what you do. I hate like competitor, like it's somebody else that does what you do. Okay. And they are talking bad about you or trying to make you look less than or incompetent or whatever. I, you know, I would hope that the people they surround themselves would see that for what it is. And if they don't, they're not my people.

Adrianne 15:58

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 15:58

Yeah. And then I can't worry about them. Yeah. Because people are gonna believe whatever they're gonna believe. And especially again, when we're out face forward in social media, we're putting ourselves out there for people. I mean, I know I've

Reframing Negativity And Giving Grace

Kerri Ann 16:12

talked to you, we've all talked about it, is that, you know, sometimes you feel like, are people kind of coming after me a little bit? You know, and you kind of feel crazy because you're like, that that's not how I live my life, but you feel it. Yeah. And and that's just gonna be that way. Because when you get to a certain level of what you're doing, then people are watching. Yeah. And you have to just, you know, either ignore it or take it as a compliment, but not feed into it. But there's room enough for everybody.

Leanna 16:41

I think that that's if you like what we're doing, come have a conversation. I'll show you the pitfalls, I'll show you here, don't step here. I'll because someone did that for me, right? But if you're gonna go at it sideways, now you're gonna lose you're gonna lose respect from the people that you're talking about into, and you're not gonna get nearly as far because you're gonna be trying to go at it.

Adrianne 17:07

And I I think people feel that and will see it on their own. And I feel like that's that's what hurts people who do that because they don't realize like the outside worlds will read through it and they will see it. And I think the same. Anyone, any agent is can come to me and ask me how I run my stuff, and I know they're gonna take 10% of it because when I go to people who, you know, make more than I do and they give me their list of what they do, and I'm like, ooh, I don't want to work seven days a week. So I'm not gonna do those things, but I'm gonna take this and this from you because that's smart and I should, you know, add that to my business or readjust something. And I feel like if I worried about competition, I wouldn't even be where I am. I mean, half the stuff I've learned has been from other agents telling me, do this, do that. These are things that worked, and and the same. I'm like, these are the top three things that work for me. This is how I do it. Agents will be like, oh, I don't want to do that. I'm like, great, well then pick one of the three and add it to your list of what you do, and then maybe that brings you a few more clients. And so I just feel like people immediately can feel it when someone's more in a scarcity. And I don't want to be, honestly, I'm not gonna surround myself people with scarcity mindset. Yeah. Because that's not gonna help me in my business.

Leanna 18:22

No. I just hate when people don't seem to see it at first, you know,

Humbling Moments And The High Road

Leanna 18:27

and you're watching from afar. If I've if I see it, I'm gonna remove myself from you. There's no reason for me to add to it. But I just feel like we're grown. Like we're not 20-year-olds trying to figure it out, like I don't know. We're grown folk. What what are we doing with the gossiping and the did you hear like and the cattiness? Like, at what point do we lift each other? Like, when does that become the most important thing? Like, I thought that was I thought we were already there. Like, why are we still dealing with it well?

Kerri Ann 18:58

That's where you just make your circle your circle. Yeah.

Adrianne 19:01

I do. I think it's why our circles get smaller and smaller is the older we get, the same. You know, I'm I don't want to go back to high school. I don't want in the gossip.

Voice Over 19:09

Yeah.

Adrianne 19:10

I want to grow my business, enjoy my life, do my thing. And if you want to be similar and have your glass half full, yeah, just do it on your own.

Kerri Ann 19:21

The girls and I always talk when we have meetings and we just say, we're let's staying in our bubble. We're just gonna stay in our bubble. Because to put energy to all that other stuff that's swirling around us is taking away from the main focus of what we're doing every day.

Voice Over 19:38

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 19:38

So we we just cannot care about what everybody else is doing. Now, if they want to be good and collaborate, like you said, if they want to, you know, how can we work together? Yeah, we've got time for that all day long. Yeah. But everything else, it's just we you have to just stay in your bubble and just not let it get to you. Yeah. Because there's somebody, whether you're just a business owner, a not business owner, you work for somebody, you don't work, what like you know, you're whatever you are, you know, you're gonna have this happen.

Adrianne 20:12

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 20:12

You're gonna

Protecting Family Names And Brands

Kerri Ann 20:13

have some level of this happen.

Adrianne 20:15

And I think, and it's not to be rude, but I'm totally gonna be salty right now, is that if you have time to be negative or about other people or have the scarcity mindset, then you're not focused on your own business and you're not busy enough. Right. Like when you're busy with your business and you're out there, like you don't have time for gossip. No, you don't have time to be in drama. You don't have time for it's also how you look at it.

Voice Over 20:44

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 20:44

Because I've had something happen recently where someone said something and I was like, I took the issue that happened in a way where I would be completely like, wow, look at, you know, I was impressed, I would be impressed. Yeah. So what they took as a negative thing, I would take as I would be impressed.

Leanna 21:10

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 21:11

And and that speaks volumes for who those people are. Yeah. When you take something and decide, instead of asking the question of that person that's in the same industry, or you know, just having a conversation about, you know, the issue that happened or what you thought was an issue, instead of just having a conversation, you know, you make it something negative.

Voice Over 21:37

Yeah.

Kerri Ann 21:38

But that's who you are. Yeah. You know, I try to go into everything in a very loving, open, like, you know, hey, learning like that's just who I am. Now I, yes, I have my salty moments, and yes, I have my boohoo, and yes, I have I, you know, want to feed you a special spaghetti dinner that's only solely for you. Yes, we have all that. But I Every the majority of things

Why Do Women Tear Women Down

Kerri Ann 22:02

I go into trying to be collaborative, trying to give grace, trying to learn, not throwing shade on people and looking at it in a negative way. Yeah.

Leanna 22:12

And now I guess it's my turn to be salty if we're gonna do it. Salt it up. Honestly though, that's exhausting.

Voice Over 22:18

Mm-hmm.

Leanna 22:19

I the high road. Yes. Like, I know that's the road you're supposed to take, and I know that that's the road that is better in the long run. But every once in a while, for real though, guys, like I'm t it gets to be exhausting. And, you know, full transparency, 10 years ago, I wanted to know all the gossip. I did. I wanted to know, I didn't want to be left out of any story. I didn't want to be part of it, but I wanted to know what was going on in the background until I was the main character in a story that went around town. And I remember calling a couple of really trusted people that had been where I was before and said, How do you get through it? And they said, You walk in that room like you own it each and every time. And going through that humbled me in a way that I don't ever want someone to feel the way that I felt in that moment. So I don't want to know the story. I don't want to know the gossip. I don't want to know the latest and greatest news. And that forever changed me. And I needed to be humbled in that way. But now that probably because I've experienced that, I have a serious, like it turns my stomach.

Kerri Ann 23:32

Yeah.

Leanna 23:32

It is the fastest way to turn me off of a friendship. I don't care who you are in business or what you have or what you don't have. The second I hear you come at someone that way, I'm done.

Kerri Ann 23:43

Yeah.

Leanna 23:44

And but it's also exhausting. Sometimes I just want to say to that person or to those people or to that company or to whoever grow the F up. Yeah. We're grown. We don't do this anymore. We don't do mean girls. We don't there's room for you at our table if you lead with integrity and with kindness, right? We all have

Choosing The Nice Lane

Leanna 24:08

our days, we all have our moments, you know, far from perfect in that. But it's also just come on, why are we still playing these games?

Adrianne 24:18

It's because they live in scarcity and it's their issue. And I think it is hard. I feel like I can't remember. You guys know I'm I love TikTok. I can't remember the TikTok, but one time it was they were praying, he was like, I'm gonna pray for the Lord, I'm gonna pray to the Lord. And it was literally like, I pray that your food is that your food makes you sick. I pray that like it was so funny. It was like, I pray you get run over by a bus. I pray so like sometimes I feel like you know, obviously when I want to be mean, I will pray to the Lord, but sometimes it's not always appropriately prayed to the Lord, where I'm like, I don't want this to happen to me, Lord, but if you could.

Kerri Ann 24:51

Well, we've all been known to have our little passive aggressive moments.

Adrianne 24:54

Yes, yes, and we're really, really good at that. I think now we just have it with each other, yes, yes, but I will say silence brings more value and more of a punch than responding. Yeah, and I I think a hundred percent that even though it's hard, and now we're not silent behind closed doors with our husband and our friends and probably on text message, right? But silence to those who are trying to reel you into something, I think speaks volumes of the integrity and the maturity level as a person and business owner when we don't allow that. We don't respond to that because we are grown-ass women and we don't need to play in the playground.

Kerri Ann 25:44

It impacts other people. Like there's been times where things have been said or done or brought up that I realize that the way that I handle this does not just impact me. Absolutely. It impacts my entire team, my company, my husband, my friends. Like I am living in that moment and how I react

Pride, Values, And Legacy

Kerri Ann 26:10

to it is not just about me.

Voice Over 26:12

Yeah.

Leanna 26:13

I think that's what's kept me honestly on that high road, even when I don't want to be. One, my last name is our company name. But even more so, I'm borrowing that name from my husband. Like my husband gifted me with his last name. Agree. And he spent 22 years making sure that he was, when he was in law enforcement, doing everything with integrity as to not tarnish that name. The last thing I'm gonna do is damage that in any way. I think that's what keeps me kind of focused, is he was so careful with it. I do that I I know that might sound silly, but I really do see it as a gift.

Adrianne 26:53

I agree. I think it's a big gift, and I think what we mentioned on husbands, there's times where I went to Terry and I'm like, they said this, and I'm gonna say blah, blah, blah, and I'm gonna, and I like, I'll go off, and then he'll go, Great, but what will that accomplish? Yeah. He's like, you're just fueling their fire.

Leanna 27:07

Yeah.

Adrianne 27:08

He goes, and then do you want to keep feeling it? You know, you know, when it's what is that gonna accomplish? Yeah, yeah. And you're not gonna feel any better because when then I will need to say more things. You know what I mean? And he's like, then you're gonna go back and forth, and then what did that do for you? And I feel like on our husbands, like you know, our obviously our team's, you know, our last name too. Yeah, and so, but it is a thing where sometimes the husbands save us.

Kerri Ann 27:30

Yeah, for sure. My husband has asked to see certain people's Facebook profiles. I'm not sure why. Nothing has ever happened. He did those mental eye snap pictures of people.

Leanna 27:47

Well, and I'll tell you, like, it's very interesting because when people talk about me, most of them I'm like, whatever, I could care less. Jeff is extremely protective. He's like, who said what about what? Right. So I a lot of times he doesn't even know. But on the flip side, if you say anything about him, those are fighting words to me. You know what I mean?

Adrianne 28:04

Like 100%. I cut someone off not long ago that said one bad thing about my husband, and it was out of context. And I was like, you know what? You are done. Like, I've helped you, I've supported you, and no, you say one thing about my man, and you know, you're lucky I'm not digging a hole for you right now. Because that is an absolute you could say whatever you want about me.

Kerri Ann 28:24

We've all had that conversation with our husbands. We can say whatever we want about their precious little behavior sometimes, but don't anybody else.

Leanna 28:34

I can say whatever I want, yeah.

Adrianne 28:36

But the second anyone says that makes me livid.

Leanna 28:41

Yeah. That's the one thing I keep.

Adrianne 28:43

Which they feel the same for us too. They just don't live in our drama. Men are just so different. You know, there's not men out there gossiping about each other's businesses. That, you know, it's like, why do women have to cut each other down?

Kerri Ann 28:55

There are some.

Adrianne 28:56

Maybe some, but but I'm but you know.

Leanna 28:59

My husband will tell you exactly what he thinks when he thinks all the time. So yeah, Terry and Brian are the same.

Adrianne 29:05

Yeah. Yeah. Unapologetically. Yes. Yeah. I just feel like they're not big gossipy drama. No. They wouldn't know what each other are doing in each other's business because they're in their own lane. I just feel like, why is it as women, do they

Listener Prompt And Closing CTA

Adrianne 29:17

do you have to try to cut other women down? I mean, uh, if you see it in even even when we watch like our raunchy shows, and it why is it, or you watch I'm watching Fear Factor right now, but when you see Ratchet, Ratchet? Ranchie oh wait, ratchet, my bad.

Leanna 29:30

I was like, wait a second, what are we doing? Ratchet.

Adrianne 29:33

I meant ratchet. But it even on like competition shows, it can be men and women in a group, and then the women are cutting each other's legs off, and I'm like, we're going to lose the competition because now you're gonna leave all strong men. Like it never makes sense to me of why women don't support each other. But then when women get together and collaborate on any competition, yeah, they all succeed and win. So it's just wild to me.

Leanna 29:56

Yeah.

Adrianne 29:57

Of what lane do you want to be on?

Leanna 30:00

I want to be in the nice lane.

Adrianne 30:02

Same.

Leanna 30:02

I can't imagine you ever not being a sort of thing. I know I can't imagine. Even when you're salty, your saltiness compared to everybody else's is like I mean, even your chat is very nice.

Adrianne 30:11

Like there's well, you just have an all-around nice aura of just being sweet.

Kerri Ann 30:18

Sometimes I just don't want to be. Sometimes we all are that way. Sometimes you just want to tell somebody exactly where to go in front of a whole bunch of people, and you can't. Yeah. Because I agree. I mean, I grew up where my mom and dad will always be like you're a Carmedy, and that means something. Yep. And now I'm married to a Ronquist and that means something. And he will say to me and to our family all the time, like what wrong twists are made of a lot. We don't go there. Yeah. And yeah, I just it's like be proud of who you are and don't bring other people down because of anything else. Like, you don't need that in your world.

Adrianne 30:58

Yeah. Yeah. And honestly, at the end of my life, I don't want to stand in front of the Lord and have to justify. I'm already gonna have enough to justify. I don't need to add to this. No, but I'm saying that I just don't want to add to my list of things that are just so unnecessary, and I won't remember a year from now. No. So why would I care?

Leanna 31:17

Very true. Although I'm pretty sure the Bible says that our husbands have to answer for us. Oh. So it's a free-for-up's gonna be like, oh definitely. She said what now? I don't know why she said that, Lord. Please don't punish me.

Adrianne 31:30

He's gonna be like, but there's no evidence on their phones.

Leanna 31:34

Erased. Erased. Awesome.

Adrianne 31:37

All right, so we're gonna wrap this up, but tell us what are your thoughts about competition and collaborating.

Voice Over 31:44

Yeah.

Adrianne 31:44

See you next time.

Voice Over 31:45

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