The Friend Code

We lay out the unwritten friend code and argue about when loyalty means speaking up versus staying quiet. The conversation gets real about trust, boundaries, and why being a good friend sometimes looks like an uncomfortable truth.
• telling a friend what you saw without turning it into gossip
• navigating the cheating question with nuance and receipts
• handling “do you like him” without crushing your friend
• calling out disrespect in a group setting
• deciding when confidentiality ends because someone could get hurt
• refusing to be the middle person and forcing direct conversations
• checking judgment around money complaints and spending choices
• naming victim mentality and the common denominator pattern
• saying your piece once then supporting your friend anyway
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Welcome to the Group Tech Goes Live, Slightly Salty Edition, where your three favorite troublemakers turn the chaos of the group text into a full-blown weekly show. We're talking real life, real opinions, and just enough sense to keep things interesting. No filters, no perfection. Just three women with big personalities, bold stories, and a habit of saying the quiet parts out loud. So grab your drink, brace yourself, and join us. Because the group chat didn't just spill the tea, it went live.

Defining The Unwritten Friend Code

Adrianne 0:34

All right, welcome back to another episode. And today we're gonna talk about the friend code.

SPEAKER_04 0:40

Yes.

Adrianne 0:41

So Liana, what what fun questions do you have for us?

SPEAKER_03 0:45

So what I came up with was the rules that I think every friend group has that's kind of unwritten. Like, when do you tell your friend stuff, or when do you not? When do you keep it to yourself? When do you intervene? So, um you know I love round robin questions, so we have different round robin questions.

Do You Expose A Cheater

SPEAKER_03 1:06

First one is your best friend's husband is cheating. You know for a fact, do you tell her yes or no? Let's say good friend, because if it's our best friend, like if it's one of the three of you guys, I'm gonna go to jail because someone's getting I was gonna say there's gonna be some there's gonna be a phone call and meet me here. Yeah, so let's take out best friend and go with good friend.

Adrianne 1:30

Okay, I still feel like if it was a good friend, I probably would. If it's a best friend, I'm gonna have footage of it, and I'm gonna be be like, hey, we gotta talk, and then you're gonna have the footage evidence. Yes, and I'm gonna be like, Do you want me to meet you and have this discussion? And we'll back you up. If it's a good friend, I still feel like I probably would. Now, can I just say this? The only thing I'll say with that is what if they're in an open relationship and you don't know that? You know what I mean? Like, people do have open marriages and it's not like they broadcast it.

SPEAKER_01 2:04

I think if they're your good friend, you would know that. You think so?

Adrianne 2:11

Do you think good friends would share that they're in an open marriage?

SPEAKER_01 2:15

I well, I don't have any friends that are in an open marriage, but I do have that you know of that I know of, but I do have friends that do things, life, stuff. I mean, I don't know. And you just know when you're around them. Like, I don't know. Like, what I think you would know. So you would have signs. I would think your radar would go off.

SPEAKER_03 2:38

I would give the guy an option, I would make it awkward. I would go up to him and be like, hey, John, how's it going? And then he knows that I know that I'm seeing the situation.

Adrianne 2:51

That's and then give him time to tell her that's doing.

SPEAKER_03 2:54

Do what?

Adrianne 2:55

I said, and then would he be like, hey, how is such and such doing? I haven't seen her this week.

SPEAKER_03 3:00

I would make it so awkward. I totally would. I'd be like, hey, so where's Jenny? And then look, like I would make I'm that person that would make it awkward. I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 3:11

Would you tell you would you tell the friend?

SPEAKER_03 3:17

Yeah. I don't know. I guess, but I don't know, like it's not my business. I would I would tell them and then not judge. Or I would be like, hey, I ran into Johnny at Red Robin and he was sitting with some chick, and then just leave it at that. I wouldn't be like, hey, I think he's cheating. Like I let her do her own investigation.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Yeah, but then what if they find out and then come back and be like, Did you know this? Then you have to lie to your friend.

SPEAKER_03 3:53

See, that's why I would say something. I would be like, hey, I saw so-and-so doing such and such.

SPEAKER_01 3:58

If you saw it, what if you didn't see it? How would you then I don't know? Like you know, no that they're having an affair because someone told somebody, or you have to actually see it.

SPEAKER_03 4:10

Then that's gossip. Unless I see it myself, I would say, hey, rumor has it. I'm not trying to get involved, but I just think you should know. The rumor going around is that such and such is happening. If I see it, then I'll say something.

Adrianne 4:26

Yeah, I feel like that's different. I feel like if it was hearsay, I probably wouldn't say anything just because I'm like, it's not my business, and I don't know who said what. If I saw it, then I feel like I like your approach better. I'm a little sometimes too blunt, so I probably should tone that down. But or just be calling me, like, hey, how's the marriage going? All good? Are we good in the marriage right now? Be really good. And that'd be like, Why? I'd be like, I don't know. I saw John at you know, Red Robin, and it wasn't you, so just making sure.

SPEAKER_01 5:01

I think I would throw it out. Yeah, but I think I have waves because if I saw John at Red Robin, I would I don't know why we're picking Red Rob Robin. I can't even say it. But if I saw John at wherever, and and uh was one of my friend's husbands, I would just walk up to the table and just look at him.

Rumors Versus What You Witness

SPEAKER_03 5:23

But see, so Jeff and I actually had this conversation before where he would, when he was working at the PD, he and a friend, which I knew about, went and had Chipotle at lunch, right? He's like a girl. Yep. So and so and I were on a call. We just finished up, we're gonna grab something at Chipotle. Do you want anything? Now he was completely transparent with me. I knew he was there, right?

SPEAKER_01 5:49

There's like no, but there's a difference because we do a lot of networking and we do a lot of one-to-ones with people. And I've done a lot of one-to-ones with men because they also own businesses and I don't just network with women. So I have gone to lunch, to coffee, to happy. Like I've, I mean, Brian always knows where I am. My mom locator, he knows what I'm doing, but I also am really, really careful about how I position myself when I'm doing a one-to-one with a man because I don't want anybody to walk in and mistake, you know, that it is very obvious that we're having a business type of meeting.

SPEAKER_04 6:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 6:30

That's like as much as I can make it that way, because I would never want somebody else to walk in and assume something.

SPEAKER_03 6:37

Right. But as small as this town is, like as big as it is, it's super small, right? So Jeff and I actually had that conversation of what is the perception? I know what's going on, he knows what's going on. We're friends with this lady's like nothing, there was no question. But it that's why if I saw something, I would say, Hey, this is what I saw. I have no idea what's happening, because it could just be an innocent, yeah, that's actually his cousin. She's in from out of town. I knew about it. Now I look stupid, right? But I still say something.

Adrianne 7:11

No, I feel like I wouldn't say anything unless I thought them like they were holding hands, kissing me, like just eating, because it's seemed like lots of one-to-ones and that. I wouldn't think anything of it. It's like if you looked a little too close, now through the entire lunch, would I be paying attention to whoever I was with? No, like I would have like my binoculars on to be like, who is this person? How close are they sitting? That type of thing. But I wouldn't say anything if they were, I just saw a husband at a restaurant. I wouldn't get anything of that part, but if they were getting close, then my radar would go off.

SPEAKER_03 7:46

Yeah. Yeah.

When You Dislike The Boyfriend

SPEAKER_03 7:48

Okay. Question two. Ooh, the unattractive boyfriend. If your friend said asks you, do you like him? And you absolutely do not, do you tell her the truth, or do you smile and say, if you're happy, I'm happy?

SPEAKER_01 8:04

If you're happy, I'm happy is the same as no. With girls, it's either yes, yes, or anything else is no.

SPEAKER_03 8:16

But if you don't like him, what do you say?

Adrianne 8:24

Right? I don't say anything. And I'm gonna say this because over the years, sometimes friends have been with people where I was like, wow, that guy's an ass or something, but they really are love him, or you know, and really is ends up being a really great relationship. And so I feel like just because it's not my cup of tea, doesn't feel as if you're talking from experience. I'm just saying that, you know, we all have different preferences of who we date. And I feel like that's sometimes we have to give people some time. Yeah, sometimes people have to, you know, they surprise you later. But I would not say that just because I mean, obviously, I feel like that analysis is just like when I show houses. Like sometimes I'm when I would first start doing real estate, I walk in, I'd be like, man, that is ugly carpet, or look at that wallpaper. But then the another, you know, and I walk in, the client's like, man, I love this. So I learned easy on. Like, I just don't give my opinion if someone else is happy.

SPEAKER_03 9:26

If someone straight up asked me, I don't think I would lie, but I would find a very nice way to not let it be like I can't stand that.

SPEAKER_01 9:37

How do you say your opinion though that way?

SPEAKER_03 9:42

I would say, like, you seem super happy, he seems to be really good to you, or you seem really happy. It's it makes me a little concerned that he's not really kind to you. Like, I would bring up a concern if it's a major red flag, if he's unkind, or I did see him at the red robin holding hands. Or red robin. Or red. We are not getting sponsored by red robin at this point. But, anyways, no, I would say you seem happy. Like, I would try and affirm that person, but I don't there's been so many times. I don't like many people. We all know this.

Adrianne 10:22

I don't like maybe that's how I would I'll say the hard part of that is if it's good friends, and this is experience in the past, but I have no issue in a group setting if a spouse, it could be male or female, says something that I think is inappropriate or harsh to the other, and they are my friend, I have no issue calling that out. And so I I don't have a filter on that. Like if I feel like someone's disrespecting his girlfriend, wife, whatever, I have been known to be like, hey, hey, like I don't feel like that was very appropriate. She does XYZ for you. So I feel there is a fine line, and now I have offended Pete. I have even offended the friend that she didn't think I needed to say that, but I feel like sometimes I I don't have a filter on that.

SPEAKER_03 11:08

If I hear something, I have a hard time finding my I would be so embarrassed if my person got called out for being disrespectful to me. Like I would be embarrassed as you know what I mean? Like Yeah. Let's just all just pick people that we all like. That would be your friend tells you something deeply personal and says you can't tell

Secrets That Could Hurt Someone

SPEAKER_03 11:35

anyone. Later you discover that keeping the secret could seriously hurt someone she loves. Do you keep your mouth shut because she trusted you or break confidence because someone else could get hurt?

SPEAKER_01 11:46

It's gonna hurt my friend.

Adrianne 11:49

Yeah. It's gonna hurt another friend. So this friend I'm saying to keep it quiet, but it's gonna hurt another friend. Yep. So I will say in that situation, which I've had those two, is I normally will tell the friend who I know it's gonna hurt another friend, like, hey, there's no way I can keep that, or I'm gonna have to be able to say at least something to give them a heads up, or how can I handle this, but not say it's through you or break your confidence, but I can't be put in the middle knowing that if and when it's found out, I don't want to be the person that's hurt either person. Yeah. So I feel like I normally will just be like, this is where the line is for me on how much I can say or not say.

SPEAKER_01 12:37

Karen. I would, I would probably do the same. I mean, I I am a vault. If someone says don't say anything, I don't know if it's the Italian in me, but it's like it just after I hear it, it dies. Like it's like I don't even I didn't ever hear it. Because I just take that very that's a big thing for me. If someone's telling me something and it's sensitive or just like like it's that's it, it doesn't go anywhere else. But if it if it includes other people that I know and somebody's gonna get hurt, I agree with Adrian. I would have to say to that person, this is really hard for me to let it die here because then what? Because if that does get to that other person or hurts them or upsets them in any way, and I think they're gonna come to me to talk about it, I would die a million deaths knowing that I knew and didn't say anything.

SPEAKER_03 13:38

Yeah, I don't know. I think this is gonna sound bad and probably make me sound like a bad person, but whatever. I will evaluate the friendships first. If one of you two tell me something and tell me not to say anything, even if I knew it's gonna hurt someone else, I would probably keep it. I would tell you, dude, this is some BS that you're asking me because you know she like I would call you out.

Adrianne 14:03

We couldn't talk to each other that way. Not everybody can do that.

SPEAKER_03 14:06

No, but I would be like that said, if it was someone else, I would look. If someone else, if a good friend told me something I knew was gonna hurt one of you guys, like I would just evaluate the depths of the friendship. Like, how who am I closer to in order to either have a conversation with that person that says, yeah, you're you're putting me in a really uncomfortable position. I really feel like I need to say something. But yeah, it kind of depends on who I'm closer with.

Adrianne 14:36

I feel too though, sometimes in those situations, sometimes the person who knows that you're good friends with those of them sometimes put you in that. I feel like someone's I've been put in that situation because they want the other one to know, but they don't want to be the one to break whatever news it was. And then I feel like they're opening the door where I'm like, are you wanting me to say something? Or I'll say, I feel like I need to say something. I I you know that this is not something I could keep quiet. And then I feel like they just hand it to me. Like, yes, could you just you could say, but just don't say it's from me. And sometimes on that, I one, it puts me in an awkward position because I don't like to be the middle person. Because I don't want to say it's hearsay, but you know, someone saying something to say something to say something. But also it makes me reevaluate who asked me to be in the middle and handle something, and then what kind of friendship do I have, or what kind of friendship do they both really have that they thought they had. So I feel like sometimes in those situations, they're putting they're doing that just because they want the other person to know, but they don't want to be the one to say it.

SPEAKER_01 15:41

Well, being in the middle never works because I have been in the middle before, and it's then you're in the middle and they're fine, and then you feel like crap. And I don't like when people put I don't like to be put in the middle like that, and I try not to do that with other people.

SPEAKER_03 16:01

No, but honestly, I've been in that same situation where someone's like, Can you tell this person? I don't want to tell them I know you're better friends with them. I will do it because it's the right thing to do, but kind of like you said, I will re-evaluate the friendship of the person that put me in that situation. And honestly, I haven't been able to really redeem that friendship at that point. It becomes tarnished. I'm not quite sure why. Like, why make me do a hard thing? Like now I have to go to you and tell you something hard and deal with the the fallout in the aftermath, and you're over here living your best life, not having to worry about any of it. Like, I think that that's kind of a crappy position to put anybody in.

SPEAKER_01 16:41

Well, and we've talked about this because we've had people we've had people in our circles that have put us like just individual, not just like that. This has happened, and I think then for me, I I am evaluating that person because I don't have an issue having an uncomfortable conversation with somebody. So it's like, okay, why are you not doing that? Like, what is what are you trying to gain from this?

SPEAKER_04 17:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

Because otherwise, then it just you just put everybody in a whole bunch of situations they don't need to be in.

Adrianne 17:22

Yeah. But I also feel like on that, I mean, I don't obviously, if someone is afraid to do something and then I'll do it. One, I'm like, do they really just feel like I'm that blunt? I have no issue telling someone something. I mean, I don't know if I take that as a good sign or a bad sign.

SPEAKER_01 17:35

Go tell a dream, she'll do it.

Adrianne 17:37

She'll just go rip the band-aid. But I also feel like, gosh, if more people just ripped a band-aid, I feel like half the drama that happens in, you know, we're out and about in a lot of different groups and circles, and I feel like half the drama would be gone if people just rip a freaking band-aid, say what you need to say or what your feelings got hurt on, and move on. Then all of the like sidebar this and sidebar that. And you, I don't know. I just like we're at an age now that I'm like, just rip the freaking band-aid and move on and be done.

SPEAKER_03 18:06

Well, and then when you are the middle person, if someone tells me something I've got to tell you, I don't know all the details. So you're gonna ask me questions. I'm gonna be like, I don't know. I wasn't, I just heard this. But if the person had just come to you directly, they have all the answers that you're looking for. It's just a mess.

SPEAKER_01 18:27

So if somebody has it, just go tell somebody else I'm whirling around in my head than to deal with that pull pressure.

SPEAKER_03 18:37

Yes. Okay, next question. This

Broke Complaints And Spending Choices

SPEAKER_03 18:40

feels like my chat is attacking me, but I'm gonna read it anyways. Okay, your friend constantly complains about being broke, but you know she's spending money irresponsibly. That's so rude. Do you tell her she's the problem, or do you just listen and let her figure it out and watch her go on her next cruise?

SPEAKER_01 18:57

Her next cruise? Did you add cruise in there? Yes.

Adrianne 19:05

Oh, I love it. I feel like one, I don't know what what money people have. People can complain they don't have money, but they really have money. You know, like there's you would say, you know, there's so many different millionaires that are driving cars from the 1980s wearing ripped jeans, and they won't spend anything. I have family on my side, Terry's side. They have more money than they know what to do with, but they won't spend a dime to to do anything, you know. I was talking about that. Like Terry's uncle's house is still the same as it probably has been for 60, 70 years. I have an aunt the same way. They own farms and land. The house has never changed. Not even furniture and stuff. It's it is the same. And they could spend money and they complain all the time about being broke, but they're not really broke. So sometimes I feel like it's hard to judge someone when they say they're broke.

SPEAKER_04 20:00

Yeah.

Adrianne 20:01

Because what is their mind of what's what do they consider broke? Yeah. Now, with you guys, I might send you memes of funny things. Like that would be hard to tell you.

SPEAKER_03 20:13

All of these like show keep showing up. That's like, I'm not broke, broke. I'm like, it's it's just choosing, right? Like, we're not vacation broke.

SPEAKER_01 20:22

I'm I also think it's how people choose. Like, I mean, I know, and we've talked about it. I mean, Brian and I own two and a half businesses between the two of us, and being your own business owner definitely has ebbs and flows. And sometimes you feel like the world is falling apart, and other times it's good. But I also am married to a human that is in the space of I could die tomorrow and I don't want to not go away for the weekend or go have dinner here or whatever. I mean, granted, if we were dead broke, we wouldn't be doing that, but I think I think it's it's that individual person's deal, you know. Like, I don't know, I don't, I wouldn't judge anybody. I mean, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 21:12

It doesn't affect my life. Like, I'm you know, I can listen, you can everyone's got something to complain about. Like, if that's your thing, okay, but probably not my business to say, do you realize you're the problem here? Like you said, Adrian, like, okay, if you send me memes, I might be like, oh, maybe it is me. Like, let me come to my own realization that it's my own problem.

SPEAKER_01 21:32

Well, and I do, I think there's different, yeah. I just you like Adrian said, you just never know with people. I mean, you just you never you just never know with people, like what they have, what they don't have. I I know that I feel like I've been judged in my life through different lenses of people, and I didn't like that feeling because it caused me to shut down. And not talk, you know, about feelings or things because you get worried about the way that people perceive things. So I don't do that to other people. I mean, I'm just in that space where if they're not, if they're just friends, it's like live your best life, you know. But with us, it's different because we've been, you know, in the weeds with each, we know each other. So I don't think that we would do that with each other. We may just be like, hey, what you doing?

Adrianne 22:32

I can't think Tara'll be like, we're broke. We can't, you know, go on like a vacation or do something. And then the next minute he's sitting in the listing, he's like, hey, you want to buy this house? Like, I mean, everyone's view of having money is so like terribly like, we don't have money to go do this vacation, but somehow we have money, like, let's go buy this investment property or so. Everyone's money, I just like everyone's money is just spent differently. Yeah, for true.

SPEAKER_03 22:56

Okay, let's see. You

The Common Denominator Problem

SPEAKER_03 22:58

love your friend, but every story somehow ends with someone else being the problem. Her boss is toxic, her boyfriend is an asshole, her family doesn't appreciate her, her business partner screwed her. At what point do you say, girl, maybe you are the common denominator? They're always the victim. Do you tell them? Yes. Do you? I move away. Because, dude, at some point I'm gonna be the villain. Nope, nope. She's gonna go.

SPEAKER_01 23:25

I don't think you are you don't have to be outright with it, but I've needed to be in check sometimes too. Because sometimes when you're in the middle of your own world, you don't see outside of it, and the pity party gets really easy to live in. And sometimes you just need somebody to hello, poke some holes in your little bubble and say, you know, you got to take a look at yourself. Now, and not everybody can do that because yeah, it could end a friendship or it could, I don't know. I've I've appreciated it, I've asked it because I mean, I not from everybody, because I don't want just anybody coming up to me and being like, you're the problem.

SPEAKER_03 24:06

Let me tell you what your problem is. Yes, I think it all of these questions go back to I will honestly look at the depth of every friendship. If it's a meaningful true friendship, I'm probably gonna have a conversation that's like, hey, have you noticed how everybody else is the problem? But you're the only person in the middle of all of these things, right? Like, but if it's not someone that I have that level with, I will, I will definitely move away before I'm the next reason why XYZ didn't happen.

SPEAKER_01 24:40

I think if that's their trait, then you I don't know if you would be friends with them for long.

Adrianne 24:47

No, Adrian. Yeah, I'm not really like around I don't like a lot of negativity or the downy debra thing all the time. Like that just doesn't. I just feel like it's a negative vibe, and then it it just makes it weird. I don't know if I've ever told, I mean, and other than my husband, who has no problem to tell me if I'm in one of those like complain modes, he's probably the only one who truly can say it, and I will get mad, and then later I'll be like, No, that's probably true. I was in my own spiral, and I can do the same with him, but it's not like I don't feel like I say that much with friends.

SPEAKER_03 25:25

No, okay, we'll do one more question and then we will wrap it up.

Support Versus Hard Truths

SPEAKER_03 25:31

Um your friend is making a huge mistake, you know it, she knows it, everyone knows it, but she doesn't want advice, she just wants you to support her. Do you A support her no matter what? B, tell her the truth, even if she hates you. C, say your piece once, and then like let her make her own damn decision.

Adrianne 25:54

I will say my piece and then I will be done. There's no way I could filter myself to not give my opinion on it. And then do you support her? And then I would support. I would just be like, hey, here's my concerns with this. And then if they don't want to listen to it, then I would just be like, I'm that's fine. Now, when it comes around, I'm sorry, but I am one who will tell you the I told you so. I just will not say it. Yes, because I'll be like, oh, well, remember when uh we had this conversation that's called an Adrian exclamation point.

SPEAKER_03 26:30

I just realized that we've had these conversations multiple times that I'm just now light bulb is just now going on.

SPEAKER_04 26:37

Damn it.

SPEAKER_01 26:39

How am I now put those things? Without saying I told you so. She hasn't a way of doing that. Oh, she does. I am bad about that. Or she'll just listen to you and then go. And that face is like, I told you so.

Adrianne 27:01

My sarcasm will be like, What? That happened?

SPEAKER_03 27:06

Now the sarcasm I feel like you leave for your kids and your husband. Like, I don't think you're not really sarcastic with us.

Adrianne 27:12

Yeah, I am pretty sarcastic with my kids and my husband.

SPEAKER_03 27:15

But you are like sarcasm. I think I told you, remember this conversation. Remember this conversation you've said to me like a dozen times.

SPEAKER_04 27:23

Damn it.

SPEAKER_03 27:25

Carrie Ann, what about you?

SPEAKER_01 27:28

I would say how I felt and then just let it be after that. Just and then be just be like, I'm here for you. You know, just and then let it be.

SPEAKER_03 27:40

I think we're all like that with each other. How are we with the public? Are we the same way with the public?

SPEAKER_01 27:46

I don't think that I put myself in positions where just any like every once in a while person is gonna tell me that. But also then when I say that, for some reason I have tell me your entire life written across my forehead everywhere I go. Like even when Brian and I go out, I'll be in a conversation and people tell me things I do not need to hear. I don't know, but yeah. I I mean, yeah.

Adrianne 28:15

I feel like I'm too selfish that if you're not in my close circle, then I really don't care what you do. Now, if you're asking my opinion and you want my opinion, I'm happy to give you my opinion. But I feel like if you're not not in my circle where I'm truly worried, like I take what you guys do very personal. Like if you're in my circle, I take it very personal of what you're doing and feel like we have an open thing that I could tell you, and you could be upset with me or mad, and then you'll be fine. Because we're family, where other people, I don't know. I don't, I just feel like maybe I'm selfish that way, but I don't want to be involved in everybody's business.

SPEAKER_03 28:56

I want to know everyone's business. I don't want to be involved in it. I don't and I think that that's an important thing, though, is like if you're asking for my advice or you're asking my opinion, I will give it. If you're just telling me what you're doing and you're not in that close inner circle, then go and God bless. Like, I'm not gonna take the time to insert my opinion, especially if you tell me you don't want it.

SPEAKER_01 29:23

Right. Agree. I've never I've never gone to any, I've I don't think I've ever gone to you guys and say the and then I don't want your opinion. Because I just know no matter what, I'm gonna get it. I'm gonna get your opinions. So why why even go into the conversation that way? Plus, and I wouldn't tell just anybody something and say, This is what I'm gonna do, and I don't want your opinion.

The One Rule We Never Break

SPEAKER_03 29:52

Yeah, final question as we wrap up: What is the one friend code rule you will never break?

Adrianne 30:02

Oh trust, confidentiality, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:07

Trust and lying. I mean, trust is lying. I mean that whole thing. Like, yeah, I I am gonna I am gonna be your person and have your back, and I expect the same. Like, I just I don't love that feeling of wondering when you leave a room if somebody's gonna say something or like I just I have no tolerance for that because that's not how I need to have that, and I I know we're all very similar that way. Yeah, like I'll have your back even if you're wrong, and then we'll talk about it later. I don't care what it is. Well, there's a bit person, that's it. I I've got your back, and I don't care how crazy I look, and then we'll talk about it.

SPEAKER_03 30:54

Yep. I think there's that one real it's a it's a clip, it's a famous clip. What's his name? Kevin Hart. That's like if you're my best friend, your bullshit is my bullshit, and my bullshit is your bullshit. I think it takes a lot for me to let anyone in that circle. But once you're in, like I got you, if you've got me. I think that, and that's the rule that I would never break. I don't think. Right. But I also know that if you're in that circle, you're not gonna put me in a position where I have look not full transparency. There's been times where I'm like, hey, I didn't want to go to this event, so I said that we had a one-to-one schedule. Like, I need you to lie, like I'll do that kind of stuff, whatever, right? But I think true friendships, you would never put me in a position where it's like, hey, I need you to cover for me because I'm doing this that's out of integrity. You know what I mean? Like little things that are fine. I think so. Knowing that if you're in that circle, you wouldn't put me in that position. It's definitely a trust thing. Like, I got you, you got me. And I don't think that would ever be broken.

Adrianne 32:02

No, 100%.

Final Takeaways And Goodbye

SPEAKER_03 32:05

Okay. Well, I think we've violated at least six friendship rules during this episode. It says real friendships aren't always agreeing. Sometimes it's telling your friend the truth when she doesn't want to hear it. Sometimes it's shutting your mouth and being there, and sometimes it's knowing when it's no longer your business. And I think that that kind of sums it up pretty well. So we'll see you on the next episode.

Voice Over 32:28

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